All right guys...a quick little lesson on what not to do if you like someone. Oh and this can apply to us ladies too!
lets set the stage... there is this guy who is interested in Cosmo...and we have all been friends for a while... and she kinda thought about it for a second in the beginning...months ago. He is really a smart guy, some what, down to earth and an earth friendly kind of guy. He is not the extrovert that we are...but most people, let alone guys are... But he is usually genuine and fun...so far all good things ...right.
Yeah, well, he kinda screwed that up in a hurry a couple of weeks ago... from my understanding...Cosmo feel free to correct me here if needed... he sent a e-mail saying that he would like to date you but... you seem and/ or you are to wild and crazy and that you should rain yourself in and gave ways to do so...and for what porpous.. would that be in order to date him?? Okay!?!
In my mind this guy has no idea what he wants...and I mean NO clue what so ever!
She tried to very nicely put him off with a reply e-mail, but sadly, we all know how that usually works:( So he wrote back a huge defencive and somewhat aggressive letter... What...like... are you going to force her to like you and then change her....uh...not likely...and of course not with our girl. She way to smart and cool for that. (We call her sassy for a reason...Hello!)
And so the Big Don't here is.... -Don't start with pointing out flaws...or things that she could/should change...if you feel this way...ask yourself first- Do I really like her... If so, then...Why do I want her to change? If you have to ask yourself this Question...You probably just like the "Idea" of that person...or having (controlling... Yeah...that's right I said it!!) that person- and do not actually want that person... for if you wanted them you would like them just the way they are and for who they are! If this sounds like it could be you- it maybe time to reevaluate yourself and what it is you think you may want....just a thought!

Keep Safe and keep Living large...!
Tini

The Morning after BreakfastWhile listening to one of my fav songs, Banana pancakes by Jack Johnson, I started to ponder breakfast foods. Of course this leads me to “The Morning after, breakfast”.
When I sleep over at a guy’s house, breakfast is a given…or at least it should be. Yes, banana pancakes would be great, but is not necessary. It is the thoughtfulness that means the most to me. Hell, breakfast could be Lucky Charms with a cute marshmallow design around the plate.
What if they don’t make you breakfast? Do you dump them? Or do you let them have another chance?
In my experience, giving them another chance… doesn’t work out so well. But sometimes, if the guy is worth it, you can try to talk to him about it…and maybe it will work out.
Think of it like this. You just sleep with this guy; even if you didn’t have sex, you gave him your company. You stayed over at his house, in his bed. Breakfast is deserved! Besides, it is a great opportunity for the other person (this applies for women also) to say that they cared and are thankful you stayed over.
Once, a guy brought me water after I stayed over. Yes, we had been drinking the night before & the water was appreciated…but only water?! Yeah…I never saw him again.
Yes guys, I have help up my end of the bargain and made breakfast. No, it is not always blueberry or banana pancakes, but it is always something.
What do you do if you don’t get the breakfast? Hmm, you can mention it. Some great guys/girls out there are Clueless when it comes to this. If this does not work, or you are SURE this is not the case…then Get Another One!
One of my Fav books, that helped me through a dying relationship said “Get Another one, they are making those things every day.” Who care if he has perfect abs or is wonderful in bed. Without respect and at least some caring…there can never be a healthy relationship.
Introspective Cosmo